Committment Issues
by Jackie Mason on January 31, 2010

Scott Hardie | January 31, 2010
Being honest is essential to accepting yourself as you are, and you're doing that. It sounds to me like you may feel a little guilt over not having a kid, like you owe something to that child, but you don't. Make the decisions the best you can and don't regret them. And if you do decide to have a kid, it shouldn't be because you feel like you're supposed to; that's no way to start off.

Recently, Kelly and I got to discussing how many of our friends don't plan to have any kids. We've wavered back and forth about it ourselves. I wondered aloud if this was representative of our generation, how we're prolonging youth so late into life now that many of us aren't emotionally ready to have kids until it's too late to start. Kelly made it much clearer: With a few exceptions (hi Lori), we've lost touch with the friends who had kids, because it's too easy to drift apart when that happens. Right now, we're friends with other childless couples, but if/when we do have our own, we'll probably lose touch with them too. That explanation seems right to me.

Jackie Mason | January 31, 2010
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Lori Lancaster | January 31, 2010
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