Goddamn Women

David Mitzman | January 2, 2006
So this girl im's me from jdate last week (yes, I know, I'm a member of jdate, leave the ridicule for later). Anyway, she says she saw me on there and wanted to talk. So we talked.A few days of talking and I ask her if she wants to meet up for a drink one night. She says sure but she's going to FL for a few days for vacation. She got back yesterday and we were talking tonight and I asked her if Thurs would be good, she said yep but she didn't know who I was. I thought that odd since she wrote me in the first place. Anyway I send her my profile again and then she says "oh you're too short for me" when we're the exact same height and she pretty much blows me off cuz of that. I get extremely uptight about it and she tells me I should be chilling out. I told her pretty much to bug off and have a nice life.

My entire damn life I've had a real problem with being shorter than most and a few years ago I've finally gotten over that fact and some bitch goes and does this. How come fucking women act like this? It pretty much tells me I'm an inferior fucking human because I'm not 6' tall. I wonder if anyone realizes how goddamn demeaning this is.

Jackie Mason | January 2, 2006
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David Mitzman | January 2, 2006
I'm 5'7". Problem is, most girls that are 5'5" and over want guys that are 6' tall so they don't tower over the guy. I personally never gave a crap about the height of the girl before.

Denise Sawicki | January 2, 2006
You could also say that most guys want girls who are 5'7" and under so they look like a big man :P I've only dated guys about my height or shorter since there just aren't many that are taller and perhaps they have their pick of all the cute short girls... I'm 6'1" and my husband is around 6'0" but I've had boyfriends around 5'7" before... probably sounds kind of freakish I guess :)

Anyway who wants to go out with some dumb mean girl who will reject you without meeting you?

Amy Austin | January 2, 2006
Yeah! ;-D

BTW, Ed (wouldn't really like me saying that he) is a pretty short guy at 5'6" -- and at an inch taller (subject to his debate), I still married him!

David Mitzman | January 2, 2006
I don't care the height of the girl honestly. If she's 6'5 who cares? I think too many women place importance on that and it really really pisses me off.

Lori Lancaster | January 3, 2006
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Michael Paul Cote | January 3, 2006
It's just another example of how shallow people can be. My wife is a bit taller than me (more depending on what shoes she is wearing) but it doesn't bother either of us. Height, weight, hair color, body measurements of any kind - if the person is more concerned about appearances, Dave you're better off without her. Her reaction to you is her problem not yours.

Jackie Mason | January 4, 2006
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Aaron Shurtleff | January 4, 2006
Hey! I look just like a tall, skinny, leggy supermodel, and that's a lot of pressure for guys like me, too!! ;)

Seriously, though, 5'7" is nowhere near short in my book! My grandmother was 4'10", and that's closer to short!

It sounds to me like the girl was just looking for a reason to give you the boot. Michael's right (for once!): you're better off without her!

David Mitzman | January 4, 2006
Yeah I figure I am. Thanks for being the reassuring group guys, most appreciated. :)

Michael Paul Cote | January 4, 2006
Aaron,
I have only two words for you RAVEN LOFT! ;-)

John E Gunter | January 4, 2006
I thought that problem was called bats in the belfry, not birds in the attic! Geez Mike, and to know I've had it wrong all this time! ;-D

Dave, I think the girl probably had second thoughts for whatever reason while she was away on vacation and then had to figure out a way to not meet you. Why? I have no idea, but that's kinda what it sounds like to me.

John

Scott Hardie | January 8, 2006
I never thought I'd be disagreeing about this, but if she's simply not attracted to one physical type of man, what's wrong with that? She could have been nicer about it, and she shouldn't reject a short man on the grounds that height somehow confers status, but if she is just plain not attracted to short men, I don't see the harm. I'm sure each of us could name a physical type we don't care for. I don't find waif-thin women attractive; doesn't mean I don't enjoy their company, just that I know I couldn't become romantically involved with them. Every time I get rejected for my size I just remind myself that I'm not attracted to women of my size either. :-)

Anyway, you definitely are better off without her, Dave. Don't singles sites like that let you specify your height and your desired height range, to keep people from meeting each other who are incompatible?

Steve Dunn | January 10, 2006
Did you know that short men are the most discriminated-against demographic in society? Not just in the USA, but throughout the world. There have been some fascinating psychological experiments addressing perceptions of men based on height.

So Dave, I feel your pain. On the other hand, I don't think 5'7" is TOO short. Lots of women just want to date guys that are taller than them, and some don't care, so the pool of available women for you is still pretty large. If you were 5'2" or shorter, I think you'd find yourself about 100 times more frustrated than you are.

And seriously, that girl isn't worth your time. Women are like buses. You miss one, and there's another coming down the line. You'll find your match shortly after you genuinely stop stressing about it. I think there's a chemical reaction in a man's body that sends out special phermones the moment he sincerely stops giving a shit about dating and resigns himself to a celibate monk-like existence. It's not confidence or cockiness - it's just calm. You're going to meet "her" someday, and it'll be obvious when you do, so for each one that comes along who isn't "the one," yo, peace out, lotsa luck, gotsta be movin' on 'cause I'm a ramblin' man. Throw a cigarette on the floor, stamp it out with your boot, give a tip of the hat, jump on your horse and ride off into the sunset. Women will form posses to track you down.

Michael Paul Cote | January 10, 2006
Well said Steve!

Scott Hardie | January 13, 2006
What Mike said.

Kris Weberg | January 13, 2006
Though to use Steve's metaphor, I haven't lived near a bus line in years.

Amy Austin | January 13, 2006
Prefer the trains, do ya'? :-p ;-D

Steve Dunn | January 13, 2006
Hmmm, well I'm married, so metaphorically I guess that means I'm on a Greyhound from Paris to Siberia. (I probably should have said Siberia to Paris.)